The Reasonable Question Test

Gaslighting is rampant these days — both personal and political.

Every day since the Monsters took over the government, We the People have been gaslit.

Night and day. Day after day. It’s relentless. Profoundly debilitating. That’s a fact.

The thing is a lot of us actually grew up being treated this way.

For us, these times are so much more excruciating because our brains (and bodies) were bruised and battered from childhood.

It took me seven decades to find a trauma therapist who called the condition I’ve lived with my whole life what it is: Complex PTSD. It’s not depression, it’s not an anxiety disorder, it’s not a personality disorder, it’s not peri- or post-menopause syndrome. It’s a chronic condition I live with because I was deliberately battered inside and out from birth and for decades afterwards.

I’m a trauma survivor. A domestic abuse survivor. A sexual abuse survivor. A climate disaster survivor.

Damage has been done.

But that doesn’t mean I have to just collapse into the damage done.

Nor do the Epstein survivors.

None of us have to just fight, flee, freeze or fawn in the face of ongoing assaults.

I can — and must — stand up to assaults, even as vulnerable as I am.

Just like the Epstein survivors. If you haven’t noticed, they’re actually showing us the way.

We can all stand up to gaslighting. And we must.

To take a small step forward, the next time someone tries to make you feel crazy for asking a simple question, run the scenario through these three checks:

Check 1: The Friend Test
Would you call a friend crazy for asking this same question? If no, you’re not the problem.

Check 2: The Information Test
Are you asking for information you have a right to know? (How did you get my things? Why did this happen? What’s going on? Are you lying to me?) If yes, it’s reasonable.

Check 3: The Reaction Test
Is their response way bigger than your question deserves? Anger, defensiveness, name-calling, the silent treatment? That’s not about your question. That’s about what the answer would reveal.

The people who need you confused will always make clarity feel like an attack.

Your questions aren’t the problem. Their answers are.

Power to the People!

More here: https://meriwalker.substack.com/p/do-people-call-you-crazy-for-asking